A "futch" wife/person is a colloquial term combining "feminine" and "butch" to describe a lesbian or queer individual who blends both masculine and feminine expressions in their style, attitude, or behavior. Often referred to as a "chapstick lesbian," a futch person typically navigates the space between traditional butch and femme, sometimes leaning more towards one side than the other.
Futch is a term that is generally used as a form of gender expression. This term is typically used by lesbians who present with a mix of feminine and masculine traits. They can also present as gender-neutral or androgynous.
The origin of the English term "Dutch wife" is thought to be from the Dutch colony of Indonesia where Dutch traders would spend long periods away from their wives.
What is the difference between a butch and a Futch?
Soft butches still sit firmly on the masc side of the butch/femme spectrum but with a certain feathertouch. Futch: Short for “femme butch,” futch refers to people who strike a balance between butch aesthetics and femme aesthetics (think a mix of big earrings and Carhartt overalls) but ultimately lean more femme.
"Futch" is a blend of "feminine" and "butch," encompassing folks who embody traits from both ends of the spectrum. These lesbians mix masculine and feminine expressions in their behaviors, attitudes, and interactions, comfortably navigating the space between butch and femme.
Futch culture can be summed up in one phrase: bare ankles. You can cuff some slacks and add loafers with socks for a queer AF look. Shoes are a butch-femme's best friend TBH. If your sneakers truly show out, you could be wearing an outfit of neutral colors or very simple pieces and still look super stylish.
Since the lesbian subculture of 1940s America, "butch" has been present as a way for lesbians to circumvent traditional gender roles of women in society and distinguish their masculine attributes and characteristics from feminine women.
Futch typically refers to lesbian, bisexual, queer woman or women-aligned individuals whose gender presentation or expression is somewhat of a mix of femme and butch traits. They may sometimes embody both feminine and masculine characteristics.
Lesbian is a noun that describes women who are predominantly attracted to other women. It can also be used as an adjective. Some lesbian women prefer to identify as “gay,” and that's ok.
As many femmes may be attracted exclusively to butches, some are attracted to other femmes, and still others are also attracted to men and consider themselves bisexual." Some research has indicated that butches are more likely to be exclusively lesbian, while femmes are sometimes bisexual.
Noun. bamboo wife (plural bamboo wives) In East Asia and Southeast Asia, a hollow bamboo bolster roughly the size of a human body, embraced by a person while sleeping during hot weather because its open structure exposes the body to cooling air flow.
The phrase has a number of etymologies: three Cockney rhyming slang explanations identify the phrase as coming from "dutch plate" ("mate"), "Duchess of Fife" ("wife"), or "Dutch house" ("spouse"). Chevalier, however, claimed that his wife's face reminded him of the clock face of a Dutch clock.
The most common one is how the pillow's design mimics the upper-body of a person. This is similar to how a husband would wrap his arms around his partner and hence the name. Another relates to the comfort it provides, much like the idea that your partner or spouse can support you and provide strength you can rely on.
Slang for lesbians includes reclaimed terms like dyke, descriptive phrases like butch, femme, chapstick lesbian, and pillow princess, and newer slang for specific types or behaviors, such as U-Haul (quick emotional investment) or gold star (never dated a man). More inclusive terms like Sapphic or WLW (women who love women) are also common, alongside general terms like gay or shorter versions like les.
A "lipstick lesbian" is a lesbian who has traits typically considered feminine, as opposed to the typical "butch lesbian" stereotype. Think of it as the lesbian equivalent of masculine gays.
For decades, terms like 'butch' or 'dyke' described a curious handsomeness in a certain kind of lesbian. Short quiffed hair, 'male attire' and a masculine physicality were considered her identifiable traits—to the straight world, of course, she was not quite a man but definitely not woman enough either.
In both studies, participants preferred the heavy figure with the 0.7 waist-to-hip ratio and large breasts. The same figure with small breasts was the next most preferred. In the second study, there was no difference between gender-conforming and gender-nonconforming women in preference scores.
It's not completely known why someone might be lesbian, gay, straight, or bisexual. But research shows that sexual orientation is likely caused partly by biological factors that start before birth.
The double Venus symbol takes the Venus symbol, often representing the female sex in both some scientific fields and astrology and doubles and interlocks it, creating a symbol for the lesbian community.
Stud is a culture-specific identity that is often defined as a Black masculine lesbian. As such, it is meant to be an identity label that is exclusively used by Black people.
Futch is a term use to describe a lesbian, bisexual, or otherwise sapphic female (or feminine-aligned non-binary individual) who presents with a mix of feminine (femme) and masculine (butch) traits.
Appearance norms in the lesbian community have had two functions: (a) to provide a means for members of an often invisible and oppressed group to identify one another without being identifiable by the dominant culture and (b) to provide a group identity and thus separate norms from the dominant culture.
Of course, many femme outfits consisted of high heels, tight skirts, a cinched waist and carefully applied makeup, but these could become an issue if they were read as heterosexual. Lesbians and queer women in the 21st century still deal with this misrecognition, but in the 1950s it was a real problem.
Also within couples, individuals with higher “butch” ratings had significantly higher testosterone levels, although across all individuals as a whole (ignoring couple pairing) there was no correlation between testosterone and “butch/femme” ratings.
